Prayers Not Answered

<b>Prayers Not Answered</b>
Your “prayers not answered” means your “expectations not fulfilled.” The TAO wisdom explains why: your attachments to careers, money, relationships, and success “make” but also “break” you by creating your flawed ego-self that demands your “expectations to be fulfilled.”

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Stop Your Vision Decline

Your vision, the most important asset in your life,  changes throughout your life journey. The human eye is not just a mechanical tool for vision; it is one of the bodys most important body organs. Because they are hardwired into your brain, your eyes are an extension of your brain: they give you your uniquely individual perception and vision of the outside world, as well as a reflection of how and what you think.

Your eyesight is the most important of your five senses. Because it affects your perception, attitude, behavior, and personality; it is instrumental in creating your own world, especially if you just don’t die. Your vision also affects your health because your eyes are inter-connected with many of your body organ, such as your brain (which controls how you see), your heart (which pumps blood and transports oxygen to your eyes), and your liver (which supplies nutrients to your eyes). Therefore, healthy vision requires a healthy mind and a healthy body. Vision fitness involves balancing what you see and what you think.

But your vision deteriorates with gradual decline in health in both your body and mind as you add more years to your life.

Eye Relaxation

Your eyes are active throughout your waking hours. As a result, they are constantly in strain and stress. Your eyes simply do not know how to relax, unless they receive direct instructions from your conscious mind, or when they are in total darkness.

Eye-palming exercise is the best eye-relaxation exercise that uses your healing hands to direct energy to your eyes, as well as to rest your optic nerve, and relax your entire nervous system.
  • Sit comfortably with your elbows resting on a table in front of you—preferably in a totally darkened room. Rub your palms together to generate some warmth.
  • Place your palms over your eyes, without touching them, while resting them on the bony ridge and surrounding your eyes with the heels of your hands on your cheekbones. Your eyes should be gently closed.
  • Relax your mind, and breathe deeply through your nose, not your mouth. The slower your breathing is, the more relaxed your mind becomes.
  • Feel your abdomen and back expand and contract as you inhale and exhale, respectively.
  • Visualize complete darkness to further relax your mind.
  • Feel your neck and shoulders expand and contract as your deep and slow breathing continues.
  • Visualize every part of your body—hands, fingers, toes, knees, and thighs—expand and contract with your inhalation and exhalation.

Practice eye-palming exercise as often as you feel fatigue in your eyes. A 10-minute session will work wonders to relax your eyes. You can practice it during commercial breaks on the television, or take regular breaks from your computer. This is the best eye-relaxation exercise.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Healthy Vision to See Better

Vision is about the eye. It is all about what you see, or how well you see. Healthy vision gives you sensation, perception, and conception. Your life depends on your eyes. In short, healthy vision gives you all the raw materials for living for life.

Vision is seeing, which involves not just the eyes, but also the mind, and the brain as well.

  • Healthy vision requires healthy eyes with healthy light-sensing cells to receive and process visual information. 
  • Healthy vision requires a health mind so that it can selectively see the visual data presented before the eyes. Healthy eyes do not see everything, nor do they attempt to see everything.
  • AWARENESS: See only selectively! Never STRAIN your eyes to see! A blurry image is OK!


Healthy vision requires a healthy brain to interpret correctly the visual data selectively collected by the eye.

Therefore, healthy vision is a complex interaction between the eye, the mind, and the brain. The physical body (specifically, the physical and physiological health) and the environment (such as lighting) can positively or negatively influence this complex interaction between the eye, the mind, and the brain. In other words, vision health is holistic health. Accordingly, vision self-healing cannot address only the human eye alone; as a matter of fact, vision self-healing begins with the mind first, and then the eye, and the body.

To conclude, healthy vision is a balance and correlation of physical eyesight, emotional seeing, and inner vision.


How to have better visual images

  •  Good lighting to stimulate the light-sensing cells of your eyes (millions of light-sensing cells in the retina)
  • Relaxed ciliary muscles to hold the lens in its proper place
  • Relaxed eyeballs to retain their shape
  • A relaxed macula (near the center of the retina) to prevent intense use of central vision, or staring, causing eyestrain
  • A relaxed mind to correctly interpret and process the visual data received

Good vision is all about relaxation.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau


Sunday, August 14, 2016

My New Book Publication on Amazon

I have just published my book on Amazon:


Words are neither effective nor ineffective; they just impart different meanings to the sentences in which they are used. It is the writer's effective use of words and phrases that makes sentences effective or ineffective.

The English language is made up of nearly a million words and phrases. A writer, especially one whose English is not his or her first language, may face two major problems in writing: not knowing "enough" words; and not knowing how to choose the "right" words. 

Writing is made up of words. Effective writing requires having a good stock of vocabulary, as well as selecting the most suitable words and phrases to express the  ded ideas.


There are many English words and phrases that are frequently confused and misused by ESL learners. This book provides hundreds of those words and phrases with examples to show how they should be used correctly, such as: advance and advancement; acceptance and acceptation; accountable to and accountable for; acquirement and acquisition, etc. 

Stephen Lau

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Thursday, August 11, 2016

The Wisdom of Eye Relaxation

Eye relaxation begins with the mind first, not the eye. The mind must be completely relaxed before it can relax the body—and the eye, which is only one of the organs of the body.

Relax the body to relax the eye

Practicing Oriental exercises, such as Qi Gong, Tai Chi, and Yoga, can significantly relax the body because these exercises focus on “soft” movements of the body. Western-style exercises, on the other hand, focus more on building physical strength and muscles rather than on relaxing the muscles, and hence total body relaxation.

Self-massage to relax the eye

Self-massage the eye for relaxation to increase blood circulation, to create a sense of ease about seeing, and to enhance eye awareness for better vision.

Facial and eye massage 
  • Breathe deeply and slowly.
  • Rub both hands to generate warmth.
  • Massage your jaw with your hands moving in small circles, from the chin outward along your jawbone up to the front of and behind your ears.
  • Then, move your hands over the bridge of your nose, and massage outward along your cheekbones until you reach your temples and your ears.
  • Then, starting from the bridge of your nose, massage along your eyebrows, moving above, below, and along the brow. Use your thumbs to press against the grooves slightly below your eyebrow ridge close to the bridge of your nose.
  • Gently squeeze your eyeball with your fingers.
  • Finally, use long, firm, strokes to massage your forehead from the left to the right, and then from the right to the left.

Throughout your facial and eye self-massage, identify sore spots, especially in the eyebrow area. Massage them with slightly harder and stronger circular movements.

Rub the eye 
  • Apply and press the heel of your left palm and the heel of your right palm against your left eye and right eye, respectively.
  • With gentle pressure, rub with a twisting movement your left eye with your left palm and your right eye with your right palm.

Meanwhile, contract and relax your eyelid muscles.

Of course, relaxation has also to do with how you live your life, how you perceive your daily stress and how you cope with them. Remember, relaxation has much to do with letting go of all attachments in life. Let go of controlling how your life may turn out.


Relaxation begins with the mind that relaxes the body and then the eye. Relaxation has much to do with letting go of all attachments in life. Living in the material world, we all have many attachments: physical, mental, and emotional ones that not only define who we are but also create our thoughts that ultimately affect our thinking, the origin of stress, which is the enemy of relaxation. Learn to let go of control: let go to let God. This is not easy, and that is why both human and spiritual wisdom are required. Get the wisdom of letting go.

Stephen Lau

Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

The Wisdom of Letting Go

I have just published the following book on AMAZON:

The Wisdom of Letting Go

The pursuit of human happiness is forever elusive and evasive. Why? It requires human wisdom to ask the right questions, and spiritual wisdom to seek self-enlightening answers to the questions asked throughout our life journey.

Human wisdom comes from the mind: an empty mindset with reverse thinking; mindfulness living in the present with no expectation and no picking; and spontaneity with understanding of the natural cycle of all things, that is, what goes up must also come down. The ancient Tao wisdom from China may enhance human wisdom.

With human wisdom, one may see the wisdom of letting go of all attachments in the material world. Attachments are the raw materials with which we often create the self-delusive realities of the ego-self. Letting go of the ego and all its attachments may let us see the true nature of everything: who we really are, not who we wish we were, and what we really need, not what we desire.

The ego is the human flaw that not only undermines the natural human wisdom but also distorts the lens through which we see the world around us. Therefore, we need spiritual wisdom to complement the inadequate human wisdom, to guide the soul on our life journey. Spiritual wisdom can only be attained through trust and obedience to the Creator, which is letting go to let God.

The above is what this book is all about.

If this book is right for you, you can get it from AMAZON. Click here for the digital copy and here for the paperback edition.


Stephen Lau