Are Cataract Surgeries Necessary?

Cataract surgeries are commonly practiced in people who are 65 or older; approximately 3 million Americans undergo cataract surgeries each year.

Are cataract surgeries necessary? When do they become necessary?

Cataract surgeries are performed on people whose lenses have become blurred or cloudy due to mainly aging. As a deterioration of the lenses, vision has become considerably compromised. So whether cataract surgeries are necessary or not depends on the individual.

If your work requires detailed vision, then a cataract surgery may become necessary. If you have problems driving at night or worries about road safety, then a cataract surgery may be an option. On the other hand, if you think that taking off your glasses while reading a book or a newspaper, then it may only be a nuisance that you can live with, then you may have second thoughts about taking a cataract surgery. In other words, it all depends on how bad your vision has become an interference with your daily activities.

A cataract surgery is no more than a procedure to remove a cloudy eye lens with an artificial one, and that's all there is to it. Just like any other aging process, you have to deal with it or to live with it. My book Your Golden Years and Santa Claus explains in detail the importance of living a life of meaning and purpose despite your aging, which is an inevitable as your demise. It is important to have the mental capability to cope with you physical incapacity.

As for when you need to opt for a cataract surgery, it is your decision: nobody can make it for you, not even your doctor.

Remember, taking vitamins, herbs, and eye drops may delay or slow down the aging process of your eyes, but they may never cure your cataracts. There is another myth: you need to wait until your cataracts become "ripen" before surgeries can be performed. Nothing is further from the truth. Life is full of choices, and taking or not taking a cataract surgery is one of those choices.

All in all, make your eyes healthy, and taking care of your vision health is wisdom in living in your golden years.

Stephen Lau

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The Power of Letting Go

The Power of Letting Go

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” Thich Nhat Hanh

Letting go is the natural surrender of the human mind to any involuntary reactivity aimed at removing anything that might threaten or undermine the ego-self. Letting go should be a natural instinct, and not a technique that one has to learn and master; it is simply a spontaneous human ability to give up all human attachments that create the unreal ego-self.

It is letting go, and not holding on, that makes us strong because it overcomes the fear of the unknown and the unpredictable. Let go of yesterday to live in today as if everything is a miracle; let go of the world to have the universe.

The Human Resistance to Letting Go

“When you talk about what you want and why you want it, there's usually less resistance within you than when you talk about what you want and how you're going to get it. “ Esther Hicks

Letting go has to do with human feelings. Humans have a life-long struggle, often without much success, to overcome their inner fears and to escape from their projected negative expectations. As a result, it is a natural human instinct to react involuntarily to anything that might bring about any undesirable scenario or outcome.

How to overcome the human resistance to letting go?

Letting go involves human feelings, which come from human thoughts of the present and past experiences that originate from the processing of the human mind. Given that letting go has to do with human feelings, overcoming the human resistance to letting go begins with the human mind that is responsible for processing all human feelings and experiences.

Stephen Lau

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The Role of Human Wisdom in the Art of Living Well

The Role of Human Wisdom in the Art of Living Well

Wisdom plays a pivotal role in the art of living well.

Wisdom is the capability of the mind to draw sufficient conclusions from insufficient premises. We never have sufficient data for anything and everything because we are all limited in our capability in acquiring our knowledge.

Wisdom is not quite the same as knowledge: knowledge is the acquisition of facts and information, while wisdom is the application of acquired knowledge to everyday life and living. For this reason, being knowledgeable does not necessarily imply being wise. Wisdom is beyond knowledge.

Human Wisdom

Socrates, the famous Greek philosopher, once said: “An unexamined life is not worth living.”

Wisdom is examining life by frequently asking self-intuitive questions, as well as by finding answers to the questions asked about life and living. In real life, we must frequently ask ourselves many questions about anything and everything at all times.

Asking relevant questions is introspection, which is a continual process of self-reflection, without which there is no self-awareness and hence no personal growth and development. A static life is never a life well lived. So, asking self-intuitive questions is self-empowering wisdom—a life-skill tool necessary for the art of living well.

Why is that?

It is because the kind of questions you ask also determines the kind of life you are going to live. Your questions often trigger a set of mental answers, which may lead to actions or inactions, based on the choices you have made from the answers you have obtained. Remember, your life is always the sum of all the choices you make in the process of going through your life journey.

To make the right daily life choices, you need human wisdom, which is clarity of thinking, to know who you really are, what choices are available to you, and why you decide on those choices.

TAO Wisdom

TAO is the profound human wisdom of Lao Tzu, the ancient sage from China, more than 2,600 years ago, who was the author of the immortal classic Tao Te Ching on human wisdom.

Stephen Lau

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Wisdom Begins With An Empty Mind

Wisdom Begins With An Empty Mind

“Focusing on status gives us pride, and not humility.

Hoarding worldly riches deprives us of heavenly assets.

An empty mind with no craving and no expectation helps us let go of everything.

Being in the world and not of the world, we attain heavenly grace.

With heavenly grace, we become pure and selfless.

And everything settles into its own perfect place.”

(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, chapter 3)

You are in the world, but not of the world.

So, do not identify yourself with anything and everything in the world—the car you are driving, the neighborhood you are living in, the name-brand dress you are wearing, and among many others.

What is wrong with them? You become attached to them; they only enhance and inflate your ego, making you shackled to the material world.

With a deflated ego, on the other hand, you may become enlightened and see who you really are, and not what people think you are. Enlightenment opens the door to the TAO of living for life.

The reality is that many of us are not only in the world, but also of the world; so, we are living not for life, but for the world.

We are all somehow connected with one another, so focusing on yourself is not the Way of TAO, and not the TAO of living for life.

Human wisdom requires only an empty mind, not necessarily acquisition of knowledge. As a matter of fact, the more you know, the less wise you may become. The explanation is that knowledge previously acquired and accumulated often pre-conditions your thinking mind, and thus distorting your perceptions.

Human wisdom is already inside you. What you need to do is to search for it with self-intuitive questions.

Remember: less for more, and more for less; ask and you shall receive.

Stephen Lau        

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