Life
is forever changing, whether we like it or not. We must learn to accept the
fact that we are sometimes powerless to stop any unwelcome change in our lives.
But many of us would still strive to control our lives by avoiding and
preventing those changes from happening. This is how we have created the stress in our daily living.
Stress
affects our vision health because if our minds are stressed, our bodies become
unrelaxed, and our eyes are parts of our body organs too.
Stress comes
from our attachments to many things in this material world that confront us in our everyday life, and
many of these are not only unavoidable but also insoluble. To overcome these
daily challenges, many of us just turn to our attachment as a means of
distracting ourselves from facing our problems head on. All of our struggles in
life, from anxiety to frustrations, from anger to sadness, from grief to
worry—they all stem from the same thing: our attachment to how we want things to be, rather than
relaxing into accepting and embracing whatever that might happen after we have
put forth our best effort.
Attachment is the source of human
miseries. Worse, attachment may come in many different forms that we are
unaware of.
Career
attachments
Your career may span over decades, involving many ups and
downs, such as promotion and unemployment, changes of career and pursuits of
higher qualifications, among others. They may have become your problematic
attachments.
Money and wealth attachments
Nowadays, to many people, enjoyment of life requires
money—and lots of it—and
you may be one of them. Attachment to money and the riches of the material
world is often a result of an inflated ego-self. You may want to keep up with
the Joneses—driving a more expensive car than your neighbors and friends.
Relationship attachments
Living has to do with people, involving agreements and
disagreements, often resulting in mixed emotional feelings of joy and sorrow,
contentment and regret, among others, and they become attachments to the
ego-self as memories that you may refuse to let go of—forgetting and forgiving,
for example, are hurdles often difficult to overcome.
Adversity and prosperity attachments
In the course of human life, loss and bereavement are as
inevitable as death. Loss can be physical, material, and even spiritual, such
as loss of hope and purpose. You may want to attach to the good old days, and
refuse to let go of the current adversity. Adversity and prosperity attachments
stem from the ego-self.
But human attachment is no more
than a safety blanket to overcome fear—fear of change and of the unknown from
that change. To cope with that fear, all attachments become distractions. According
to Simone Weil, “Attachment is the
great fabricator of illusions; reality can be attained only by someone who is
detached.” Simone Weil
Read my
book: The Wisdom of Letting Go.
Find out how and why human attachments are obstacles to living a life of
balance and happiness. Get the wisdom to let go of your emotional and material
attachments in order to live as
if everything is a miracle.
Stephen Lau
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